By: Jasmine Waller- Staff Writer
Photo of Jasmine and her twin.
Growing up in a small town while being a twin can be pretty interesting.
Everywhere we went, we’d get referred to as “the girls.”
Now, I just get called my name.
I was privileged to start the school year with my best friend every year.
This year, I started the school year alone.
I thought coming to college an hour away from home would be easy and I wouldn’t miss my family as much. While that part is true, I didn’t realize how much I would miss my sister.
My sister and I were born two minutes apart. Until we were 14 years old, we were never separated for more than 24 hours. We were never more than five steps down the hall from each other. Now, she’s much farther than just five steps away from me.
The bonds that twins create with one another are genuinely indescribable and one-of-a-kind. I consider her to be not only my sister but my best friend, my rock, and my life-saver. Being away from her has made it harder for me to adjust. I talk to her on the phone thrice daily, if not more.
Being a twin is the definition of attachment issues.
Even if you aren’t a twin, believe that almost everyone with a sibling feels the same way when coming to college for the first time.
Even if you aren’t as close with your siblings, you still miss them, or at least miss knowing they were around.
When you read this article, I hope that it can make you feel less alone and seen while missing your siblings.
I grew up knowing that I would have to be away from my sister one day, but I didn’t think that 18 years would creep up on us so fast.
I knew I would handle being away from her hard, but I didn’t realize how hard it would be.
I sometimes want to call her to see if she wants to grab ice cream once she gets off work, but now I am asking my friends here instead.
I want to have a movie night with her and watch our favorite childhood movies together.
I want to be in her presence constantly to ensure she’s okay.
If you have ever wondered whether twins can feel what the other is feeling, no, we can’t, but I can always tell when my sister needs me.
When I get those feelings, I worry and think of all the quickest ways I could get to her.
Worrying and anxiety go hand-in-hand. Anxiety can lead to a downfall of your grades, your motivation, and your overall happiness.
Remember, you aren’t the only one missing your sibling, so make plans with your friends and help them not to feel so alone.
Having someone around your whole life and then having to learn how to live without them one day can cause a lot of loneliness. You don’t have to feel lonely. Make sure you are practicing self-care and a healthy relationship with yourself!
You are not alone, and you are valued!
Call your siblings and tell them you love them!
